About CheekyKiwis

Who we are

Aotearoa's lifestyle scene deserved a proper home online, so a small group of people who share a soft spot for it — and for this patch of ground, top to bottom — went and built one. We map the country's scene city by city: what's open, what's changed, what the local etiquette looks like, and what the law actually says. We're not a dating app dressed up as a magazine, and we're not lawyers — just a genuine interest in getting this right.

Why we don't sign our names

You won't find headshots, bios or bylines on this site, and that's deliberate rather than an oversight. Discretion is the norm in this world — for the people who read us as much as for the people who write for us. Plenty of our readers keep their own involvement in the lifestyle separate from their day job, their extended whānau, their kids' school gate. We hold ourselves to the same standard we ask of everyone else: what happens in the lifestyle stays as private as you want it to. Publishing under a collective "CheekyKiwis" byline instead of individual names isn't about hiding — it's the same discretion we'd expect walking into any venue we write about.

How we work

The legal side is worth being precise about, because it's easy to get wrong. New Zealand decriminalised sex work nationwide under the Prostitution Reform Act 2003 — but swinging isn't sex work, so it sits entirely outside that Act. No money changes hands for sex at a lifestyle club; guests pay an entry fee or membership to access a private venue, and what happens inside is consensual and non-transactional. Swinging's legal footing here rests on ordinary consent law and the fact that it happens in private, not on the PRA — though Aotearoa's generally liberal, live-and-let-live approach to adult life certainly doesn't hurt. We keep the detail in a dedicated legal status guide rather than folding a summary in here. We read the legislation ourselves; we are not lawyers, and the guide says so.

Getting the legal picture right matters, but it's only half the job — a venue also has to actually be there when you turn up. Before a club goes on the list we check it against its own website and official social media, and we cross-check the basics — is it still trading, do the opening nights and entry policy line up — against at least a second independent source. If the listing reads like it was lifted from a five-year-old forum post rather than the venue's own words, it doesn't go up as-is.

Clubs shift more than any directory likes to admit: a change of hands, a quiet move to members-only, a closure nobody announced. When something looks off — a dead website, a club's own notice, a reader who beat us to it — we flag the listing for review and pull it if we can't confirm it's still running. Found one of our listings shut? Let us know — we'd rather fix it than leave it standing.

The same approach runs in other markets. For the Spanish-speaking world, the site that covers it is Mundo Swingers — its own dedicated site, built for a scene that spans a dozen-plus countries rather than a single chapter here.

How we're funded

CheekyKiwis is a commercial site, and we'd rather say that plainly than pretend otherwise. The site participates in an affiliate program and may earn a commission on subscriptions taken out through the links to the dating platform that appear on our guides. That arrangement never decides which venues get listed, how a club is described, or what a guide says. A club that doesn't pay us anything gets the same fair listing as one that does; a venue can't buy a better write-up. Information about the lifestyle scene and the chance to meet other couples and singles are always kept as two separate things, never folded into the same pitch.

What we don't do

• We don't invent member profiles. No fake or "sample" accounts to pad the platform out and make it look busier than it is — and no inflated numbers to make the scene look bigger than we can actually show it to be.
• We don't publish member counts. No made-up figure for "active singles in your city" — if we can't stand behind a number, we don't print it.
• We don't promise hookups. CheekyKiwis is a community and an information resource, not a guarantee of anything happening on any given night. What you get out of it depends on you.
• We don't give legal advice. The legal guide is general information researched from public sources — for your specific situation, talk to a qualified New Zealand lawyer.

Contact

Spotted a club that's closed, moved or changed its policy? Found something on the site that's wrong or out of date? Just want to say kia ora? Email us at [email protected].